Are You Feeling Empty, Alone, and Hopeless?

Person holding umbrella at misty lakeshoreDo you feel weighed down and disconnected, as though you are navigating through a dark cloud? Is it sometimes difficult to believe that your life has a purpose or that your choices matter? It may be that you struggle to get out of bed each morning and that every task—from brushing your teeth to completing a work project—feels more impossible than the next. Or, perhaps you push yourself through the motions of each day, leaning into distractions in an attempt to quiet the self-criticism and sadness churning below the surface. Do you dread spending the rest of your life this way, but feel overwhelmed and defeated? Do you wish you could find a way to stop avoiding life, embrace the fullness of your experience, and connect to deep, enduring joy?

Dealing with depression can make life seem too painful to bear. You may be experiencing surprising or unexpected emotional eruptions that feel uncontrollable or even frightening, especially if you have wished to die. Perhaps you judge yourself for these emotions, certain that something must be wrong with you if you can’t be content with your life as it is. As you ruminate over all the ways you imagine you fall short, you may wonder why you don’t know how to handle your feelings and pursue your goals, as everyone else seems to. Maybe you feel increasingly ill-equipped to navigate the world and doubtful that anyone could understand or accept you.

You Are Not Alone Or Broken

“The wound is the place where the light enters you.” — Rumi

Depression can be incredibly isolating. But, in truth, depression is much more common than many realize. According to the National Institute of Mental Health, over 16 million American adults had at least one major depressive episode in 2015. Even more struggled with depression symptoms, including exhaustion, insomnia, appetite changes, a lack of motivation, and a sense of meaninglessness.

It’s possible that you are seeking therapy because you believe you have identified the cause of your symptoms. For example, perhaps you have recently experienced a significant loss or have gone through an important life transition that has shaken your sense of stability and purpose. Or, perhaps you are being worn down by the fast-paced American lifestyle, with its many unhealthy distractions and messages, including a definition of success that ranks money and material objects over self-care, quality time with loved ones, and spiritual connection. At the same time, you may feel disoriented by national and global politics and increasingly powerless in the face of the world’s injustices and various crises that seem to be ever multiplying.

In a culture that appears to promote extreme avoidance of “negative” emotions and thoughts, anyone experiencing a hard time can easily feel alienated, stigmatized, isolated, and marginalized. This attitude toward difficult emotions also prompts many of us to point to external sources as the cause of our pain—things that can and should be fixed in order for us to feel better. But, while external factors certainly can seem to serve as the catalyst for distress, the sense of empowerment, confidence, and joy that we yearn for most often occurs from changing our perspective about our situation first.

Although it can be painful, it is natural to experience periods when a kind of disintegration and reorganization needs to happen—when your deepest Self is nudging you toward change and growth. It is possible to understand depression symptoms not as signs of personal failure or hopeless circumstances, but as signals reminding you that something is coming up to be looked at and released, calling you toward a truer expression of who you are.

A most deeply empowering experience is to recognize that you have the power to find wisdom in your pain and transform your experience of depression. With help, you can begin to tune into your desire for change, develop self-compassion and self-acceptance, and know with conviction that you already have everything you need within you to embrace a rich, balanced life and that you have never been lacking in any way.

Depression Therapy Can Help You Stop Judging Your Experience And Start Living

For over 25 years, I have helped people struggling with depression get to the root of their symptoms, tap into their innate wisdom, and develop new ways of understanding and navigating distress. In therapy sessions, I serve as an empathic and compassionate witness and guide, providing a safe space for you to carefully traverse what may feel like dangerous—even treacherous—inner territory. No matter where you feel stuck today, I can help you find your way back to living with purpose and vitality.

As we work together, I aim to help you create greater spaciousness around the feelings and thoughts causing so much pain. Drawing from a holistic psychotherapy approach, I will offer tips and strategies that honor your entire self—mind, body, and spirit. For example, we may apply mindfulness meditation practices or self-awareness techniques to help illuminate painful limiting beliefs and values that you didn’t realize you were holding, so they can be questioned and released. This can be the first step to letting go of resistance, self-criticism, and conflict so you can move through life with presence, ease, and peace instead of self-judgment.

As you change how you relate to your suffering, you can discover a revolutionary way of seeing and being with your experience, regardless of how uncomfortable it may be. And, you can realize that you are vaster and more courageous than you ever imagined, with a capacity to trust your innate ability to challenge and let go of the beliefs that cause you pain and keep you feeling stuck. You can come to trust that the entirety of your experience is normal and valid, leading you inevitably toward greater joy and ease in your life.

While our experiences may differ, my familiarity with depression extends back to my teenage years and into my thirties. I have literally traveled around the country trying to find a way to relieve my symptoms only to discover that healing was to be found through an inward journey. Only by going through my pain with mindful awareness, curiosity, and compassion was I able to discover the gift inherent in it. Dealing with depression, while so deeply painful, can lead you to a rebirth. With the right guidance and a willingness to take your own journey with depression therapy, you can find joy in the experience of honoring, accepting, and welcoming what life is bringing on its own terms. You can embrace your whole, authentic self.

You may have questions or concerns about depression therapy…

I’m afraid of what I might find inside myself.

It’s entirely natural to feel fear about stepping into the unknown. You don’t know what you will find as we work together, and you may even imagine that you won’t be able to handle what you feel or what you discover about yourself. I can assure you that we will walk through the darkness together, slowly, carefully, at a pace that feels right for you.

Whatever you discover inside you is sacred and welcome—your anger, disgust, sadness, and hopelessness, as well as your joy. There is nothing inside you that would scare me away or cause me to judge you. And, you may be surprised by the strength you discover at your core.

Will depression treatment change my life in big ways?

Many people worry that psychotherapy will bring about overwhelming change. It’s true that change can be hard in depression therapy. But, if you are in pain right now, resisting change can be even harder.

As we work together, I will not tell you what to do or who to become. Instead, I will help you see the wisdom of your Deep Self instructing you to slow down, let go, and relax out of something that no longer holds meaning for you and into a more authentic expression.

If I go to therapy, I’m worried that I’ll be judged and stigmatized.

There is nothing shameful about getting help for depression. Sessions are completely confidential, so you can share openly and honestly. I deeply respect and honor how challenging your life feels right now, and I see you as being fundamentally healthy and whole. Instead of judging, diagnosing, or pathologizing you, I hold that your symptoms are signs that a completely normal and natural process of inner re-organization, healing, and maturation is underway. You are exactly where you need to be, and I can help you recognize this and find your way through. A life of joy and fulfillment is within reach.

You Deserve To Trust And Love Yourself

It’s possible to stop resisting what is and start embracing all that is arising. I invite you to contact me or call me at 617-515-0327 for a free 20-minute phone consultation. You can ask me any questions you may have about depression therapy, my approach, and my practice in Hadley and Northampton, MA. (Note: Video sessions are available worldwide.)

*I welcome adult clients of any race, color, national origin, disability, age, sexual orientation, gender identity, relationship style, religion (or non-religion), creed, body size, etc. All are welcome!